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World of Warcraft and Relationships

Posted by Susan on November 3, 2008

I found something interesting that happened this weekend. My boyfriend runs a guild on my server, and of course I am a member in it. With Halloween this weekend, the guild decided to have a costume contest, and me and my boyfriend participated. Unfortunately half way through the event we got into a spat. Not about anything in the real world, but that I didn’t like how he was handling the voting of the costumes. I thought there was a much easier way to accomplish the task, and he didn’t agree. For me, this was very frusterating, cause, i worked hard on my costume and well, there was a prize of 60 gold.  The fact of the matter is, it made me wonder… many people online play with significant others, friends, or family… How does WoW impact the social relationships with those people in real life?

I found this comic online: I do warn that it does have a bad word in it, so look at your own risk.

http://www.joeydevilla.com/2006/06/16/the-dangers-of-world-of-warcraft/

The point of the comic is simple; woman loves man who plays world of warcraft, and for the sake of the relationship, joins in – ultimately becoming addicted as well. The problem is, that as two people become better at it, they also critize and frusterate each other, especially if they play together.

I thought about this as I played, and i thought that it would be a good idea to ask those playing the game what they thought about how these relationships are effected by WoW.

Those that I asked informed me that the major cause of tension between them and their significant other was the jealousy issue. They didn’t enjoy the fact that their partner was spending time online with someone else. I have seen people leave their partners for someone they met in game.

Not only is there a jealousy issue but also the issue with neglect. Recently I found a post on youtube from a tyra banks show, where an irritated spouse confessed that her husband plays WoW too much, so much that he left her in labour to play WoW.

Here is the link to that clip:

Now, It seems that I have focused on the negative impact that WoW plays on relationships. However it does have some benefits. Personally it gives me and my boyfriend something to discuss, to debate, and to get excited about. It actually is something we share in common and bonds us together. Furthermore, there have been many cases, to which Blizzard exclaims that people have found their life partners in the game, and even more crazy to the non-player, people actually have online weddings in game.

Well, with that said, its time for my boyfriend to help me level… For the Horde!

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Digital Relationships (audience participation will lead to Part 2!)

Posted by Shannon O'Grady on October 2, 2008

As a preface I’d like say; this entry is going to be a bit more personal than my usual, but don’t worry I won’t be sobbing on anyone’s shoulder.  My personal experiences are just illustrative of a new trend in social communications as facilitated by technology.

I’m currently in what is termed “a long distance relationship”.  I started dating my current SO (significant other) in late December of last year.  I’d met him before then, had a bit of face to face and MSN contact with him, but hadn’t really spent a good deal of time with him.  We fell in love etc and then, I had to go back to school in Lethbridge while he stayed in Calgary.

The phone was once the primary method of long-distance communications.  Today, e-mail has taken over.

The phone was once the primary method of long-distance communications. Today, e-mail has taken over.

Now for many people this would have been the end of the relationship.  For others it would have been the start of higher than average phone bills as they called each other every night.  For us, nothing changed.

How you ask?  Simple!  We have what I call a “digital relationship”.

We picked up right where we left off.  Our previously spoken conversations became text messages (which we send at a rate of 50+ a day).  To us, it’s like we’re never that far apart.  Sure, we miss the physical contact associated with our relationship, but we make the best of the visits we do have.  The important thing to both of us was to keep things natural and not let the distance stop our relationship.

Now, you may be thinking “Shannon, that’s a great story, but where is this going?” and to that I say: Right here!  😛

I never personally felt that digital communication was any different than face to face.  Though I know from experience, not everyone shares my opinions.

So I pose a question to all of you (respond in the comments section please!) :  Does digital communication work for you?  In what kind of relationship does it work best for you if it does?  Why?

My answers: Digital communication is best for me, as I’m a writer by nature.  It also allows me to control my temper by re-evaluating all my messages before I send them (I stick my foot in my mouth a lot less).  I feel no difference between face-to-face communication except in situations of physical touch. The only exception is with my family; my parents and I don’t talk much face to face, so Internet communication has brought us a little closer (especially with my Mother who likes to e-mail me almost every day).  My sister isn’t a fan of computers, so I often cater to what works best to her (or like to think I do).

If you’re uncomfortable posting in the comments, e-mail me @ shannon.ogrady@uleth.ca.  This is also a bit of a get to know you exercise too on what I hope is a fairly neutral topic to most people, so hopefully everyone will feel safe opening up.

From your responses I’d like to write about how digital communication is viewed by technology savvy folk like ourselves.  I could generalize it all based on what I’ve read in sociology, anthropology and psychology textbooks but wouldn’t it be more fun to read about yourselves!

Thank you all for your time!

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